Therapy for Men

It’s very possible you landed here because someone else gently (or not-so-gently) nudged you in this direction. 

Maybe you’ve tried therapy before … and it didn’t really help. Maybe you haven’t, but does this stuff even work? You might be thinking, “Do I even need therapy?” My life is pretty good. So many other people have it worse than me…

But, there’s also another part that notices things aren’t quite the way you thought they’d be by now. You might have followed the “right” steps and did mostly what was expected of you. Went to college, got a job, met your person, and now you’re building your life together. You might even have the house and the kid(s).

But you notice it’s the weekends, late nights, or any other time you can squeeze in a moment alone that you look forward to most. The uninterrupted time for you to watch TV, scroll on your phone, or just unwind. But, it doesn’t seem like those things are doing the trick anymore. Was it ever?

And what choice is there? You have to keep going because your family is relying on you.

But, the list of demands is growing: being the provider, the protector, handling housework, emotional support and somehow keeping things exciting with date night and intimacy. And, you know you can handle it because there is no other choice than to handle it. You don’t want to further burden anyone, but it can be isolating at times. You’ve learned it’s better to stay quiet and say nothing rather than risk saying the wrong thing.. 

But, maybe … it doesn’t have to be this way?

When we take on roles that include providing safety and security to those around us, we may tend to carry the fears alone as a well-meaning way to not worry anyone else. This pattern of shouldering things alone can breed loneliness and isolation, which may then lead to disconnection with ourselves and in our relationships.

What is needed instead is an examination of our current responses combined with additional tools and skills for problem-solving.